Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Battle Hymn review


a href="http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10173280-battle-hymn-of-the-tiger-mother" style="float: left; padding-right: 20px">Battle Hymn of the Tiger MotherBattle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

I gave this book 4 stars because it was well written and very readable, not because I agreed with her.  I couldn't put it down.

However, it was kind of like watching a train wreck... like you can't not watch it.  This mother is the typical asian music mom times by 20.  I think we've all seen parents like these in all fields, but this book shows what happens behind closed doors.  I do appreciate her honesty.  She made no attempt to see things through rose colored glasses.  However, it was a little disturbing how emotionally abusive she is of her daughters and how proud she is of it.  I actually agree with a lot of her theories, but I think she is too far on the extreme side.

She says, "What Chinese parents  understand is that nothing is fun until you're good at it.  To get good at anything you have to work, and children on their own never want to work, which is why it is crucial to override their preferences."  I agree with the first sentence...and partially with the second sentence.

She also says, "my goal as a parent is to prepare you for the future-not to make you like me."  Agreed.  Parenting shouldn't be about trying to be your kids' friend, but that doesn't give you license to emotionally abuse your children and work them to death either.

Chua has some good concepts and Ideas, but they're poorly executed in my opinion.  No wonder her youngest daughter hated her and rebelled.  There's just no excuse for calling your daughter garbage...


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Sunday, August 21, 2011

Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother

Have you guys read this book???  It is a little insane.  But insanely readable.

Saturday, July 2, 2011

Outliers

I loved this book.  Loved it.

President Holland at UVU has a Freshman Reading Challenge every year to try and get the Freshmen to get into an academic mindset at the beginning of their college career (which I think is brilliant, seeing as most of the Freshmen I teach have not read anything, or if they have, it's Twilight and that's about it...yikes).  Last year this was one of the books (the other was Antigone) and I just didn't get around to it until the end of the year, but I am so glad I read it.

I have so many notes throughout the book that I wanted to go back through and discuss.  I'll try and keep it down to bare minimum here, but if you haven't read it, do.

It's not necessarily a how-to for success, but it blows a lot of the prominent theories that exist surrounding success right out of the water.

It is the study of success and abnormally successful people, and the results were very unexpected.

One of the big ideas of the book is that 10,000 hours of practice is required to achieve professional excellence in any endeavor.  This is on average about 3 hours a day over 10 years.  He states that it takes the brain this long to assimilate the information, and that age 8 is the best age to start this kind of an elite training program (whether it be in music, sports, computer science, aviation, etc.).

I think this is interesting because in ballet you are told from the time that you are little that age 8 is when a ballet dancer should start serious study of the art form, and that it takes 10 years to train a ballet dancer. I, myself, tell my students this all the time.  I believe it's true... it's just interesting to think that this applies to any field.

The thing that I loved about his conclusion was that they didn't find anyone who didn't practice this much who reached a professional level.  And on the flip side, they didn't find anyone who did practice this much that didn't achieve a professional level of expertise.

To me, the message was if you really want to do something, and you are willing to put in 10,000 hours (not something anyone does lightly), you can achieve a professional level of achievement in whatever your choice is.

Obviously, unless you have an endless supply of money or an endless supply of talent, or sometimes both, then certain things might not happen for you.  But I liked that it tore down this elitist kind of attitude that sometimes exists amongst the truly successful.

The book says much about successful people who state that they are a "self-made man" and how ridiculous that thought is.  It shows several examples of people who are the most successful in their field and how they put in their 10,000 hours, and then they just happened to be in the right place at the right time with the right tools at their disposal.

Another great point in the book is that intellect and ability have little to do with each other.  A study took a bunch of kids with the highest IQs in their age groups and followed them for the rest of their lives.  One would think that these people were the next nobel prize winners, etc. but for the most part, they lead average lives, making average salaries etc.

One more great thought.  The book says, "America doesn't have a poor kids disadvantage in education.  It has a summer vacation disadvantage."

Studies show that no matter a childs' socio-economical standing, all kids achieve about the same amount during the school year, if you are judging what they can do at the end of the school year as opposed to when the school year starts.  But where the wealthy children have the advantage is that they get ahead of their poor classmates during the summer months.

It argues that parents who are wealthier aren't so busy just trying to make ends meet that they have the luxury of taking time to teach their children, and they have the money to send them to summer camps and get tutors, etc.  The study found that in poorer households, the parents were gone almost all day long just trying to make money to live that in the summer break months, the children were left without any kind of educational guidance... or very little.

Thus, the shorter the summer vacation, the more achievement is possible for children academically.  In America, children attend school 180 days out of the year, whereas Japanese children are in school for 242 days of the year.

Just some thoughts.  I had so many more as I was reading them, and there's so much great material in this book that I haven't even touched on, but these were my main thoughts.

Anyone else out there have other thoughts or things that influenced them from the reading of this book?

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

A Tree Grows in Brooklyn

This was one of those books that is just a classic.  It's a classic because it's well written.  It's a classic because it's historically accurate, preserving a time and culture and people.  It's a classic because it makes you think about some of the harder questions in life.  It's a classic because of the flawed and realistic characters and their relationships with each other.

I know it changed me and opened my eyes from reading it.  I know that because I find myself thinking about it still.

When I was reading it, I liked it and I thought it was good.  But when I finished it and have thought back on it since, it felt like it was an important book for me to read.  It was important for me to see how many opportunities I have been given in my life and how blessed my life is.  It was important for me to see that it is not what we are given, but what we do with what we are given.  It was important for me to see how much I get caught up in all the "stuff" in my life, even when I try so hard not to.  It was important for me to see that even deeply flawed people can be a huge influence for good in others' lives.  It was important to remind me to look for that good in everyone I see.

The content is difficult.  But at the same time, it's beautiful to see what a young girl can accomplish and become with so many hardships in her way.  I love the analogy of the trees as well:

"Don't say that. It's not better to die. Who wants to die? Everything struggles to live. Look at that tree growing up there from the grating. It gets no sun, and water only when it rains. It's growing out of sour earth. And it's strong because its hard struggle to live is making it strong." 


This was probably one of my favorite quotes of the whole book:

"Dear God, let me be something every minute of every hour of my life. Let me be happy; let me be sad. Let me be cold; let me be warm. Let me be hungry...have too much to eat. Let me be ragged or well-dressed. Let me be sincere- be deceitful. Let me be truthful; let me be a liar. Let me be honorable and let me sin. Only let me be something every blessed minute. And when I sleep, let me dream all the time so that not one little piece of living is ever lost." 


How much do we get caught up in wanting everything in our lives to be perfect?  Why are we unhappy because we don't have enough money? The car we want? The home we want? The career we want? The life we want? The family we want?


Why can't we take the good and the bad and just live the life God gave us and be happy that we still have our freedom and the ability to choose what we want to do.  Why don't we just LIVE?

Friday, May 6, 2011

What did you think?

What did you think of Behind Rebel Lines?

I have been wanting to read this for awhile after seeing it in a reading list that all girls should read before they grow up from the Daring Book for Girls.  It obviously is written for very young children.  It was a nice easy read and an interesting story, and I think I would have thought it interesting as a young girl.  As an adult, I found myself wondering how much of this was based on research and how much was a narrative of what the author thought happened.  It would be interesting to research a bit more.

I thought it was interesting to compare this girl to girls that are growing up today.  Would any girl growing up now feel that deep desire to serve her country and want to have an impact on history in this way?  And if they did, would they be courageous enough?  I have to admit that I don't know if I could have done this. I don't know that I'm brave enough, or that I would believe in whatever-the-cause-may-be enough to leave home and family and go on a wild adventure.

What did you think?

Saturday, April 30, 2011

Debate

Before discussion begins on Behind Rebel Lines, I saw a poll in the Costco magazine that I thought would be interesting to put before you all.  The question is this:

"Should Literary Classics be Sanitized?"

Recent editions of classics have been edited to remove racially charged words and other inappropriate language.  Supporters of the revised editions say that this is helpful so that the books don't need to be banned completely and allows everyone to enjoy the work.  Critics argue that this amounts to desecrating the writer's work, rewriting history and denying modern students the learning experience of asking hard questions.

I will weigh in, myself, but what do you think?

Saturday, April 2, 2011

Aaaaaaand... we're back!

Hi Everyone!  (Is anyone still there?)  I'm sorry for my unintentional Sabbatical from Book Club activity! I had some family issues and had to pare our activities down to the very bare minimum in order to get through the days, but I am ready to come back to my previous life!

I am putting together a list of upcoming reads, and was wondering if you had any suggestions?  I thought we'd start out super easy in coming back from the break with a short read.  I found the suggestion in the Daring Book for Girls under the heading of "Books that all girls should read" and it looks pretty good (and short!)

If you are interested in continuing with the Book Club, the April book will be:

Behind Rebel Lines: The Incredible Story of Emma Edmonds, Civil War Spy

What else should we put on the Docket?

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Book Reviews

I hope you are enjoying Follow the River, but in the meanwhile, I thought I'd put up some book reviews from the past year.

Here are some from our friends here on the book club (Andrea, you are an honorary member...) that I put up without their permission, so give me a holler if you want this off.

Ashlee's 2010 book review

Andrea's 2010 book review (part 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6)

Shayla's 2010 book review (part 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 and 6)

And if there's anyone else out there with a review, let me know and I'll put it up!


And here are some very random lists of the best of the best from 2010 lit.

Amazon's Best Books of 2010

NY Times top 10 of 2010

Best of 2010 from Fiction Award Winners

Publisher's Weekly

NY Times best illustrated children's books

More Children's books

Publisher's Weekly best of Children's books

ALA's best young adult books

Goodreads best of YA books for 2010

Amazon YA books

I don't know about you, but my "to-read" list just got about a mile longer.

Friday, December 31, 2010

A Christmas Carol

"Men's courses will foreshadow certain ends, to which, if persevered in, they must lead," said Scrooge. "But if the courses be departed from, the ends will change. Say it is thus with what you show me!"


I love to read this every year... something about the genius of the verbiage combined with the themes of the book (and the fact that I can hear muppets in my head saying the words along with me as I read) makes me feel like it is Christmas for sure!


As a play on the quote above, I was just wondering, if the ghosts of your past, present and future were to come to you today, what would you regret?  What would you be happy about seeing?  And what would you (after seeing the "big picture" of your life) want to depart courses from things that you are engaged in at the moment?


I think for me the one thing that I am not totally ecstatic about in my past and present life is how busy I get.  This last semester reached kind of a breaking point for me.  I had a ton that I was trying to juggle and I did juggle them successfully.  But at what cost?  I know that I was not as patient at home with my daughter and I know that I did not work on any of my most important relationships at all.  I have wonderful friends and family, but if I don't take time to enjoy them, I feel like it will get to a point where I will lose something extremely valuable in the exchange.  Don't get me wrong, I was doing things that I have wanted to do and am glad to say I have done them, but I think I was running faster than I had strength, if you will.  This is one thing in sitting down to reflect on the last year and making new resolutions for 2011 that I would really like to depart from and really take the time to just be and just breathe.  


Do any of you have new years resolutions?  Or was there any part of the book that spoke to you?


I hope you enjoyed reading this as much as I do every year!  Merry Christmas!


"I will honour Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year. I will live in the Past, the Present, and the Future. The Spirits of all Three shall strive within me. I will not shut out the lessons that they teach. Oh, tell me I may sponge away the writing on this stone!"

Friday, December 10, 2010

I am the Messenger

So... what did you think of I am the Messenger by Markus Zusak?  Was it better than The Book Thief?  In what way?  Don't you just love his writing style?

Catch 22 Review

We gave Catch 22 a

3 out of 5

Monday, November 29, 2010

The Actor and the Housewife

Have any of you read this book?  Below is my goodreads review.  But I'm curious, what did you guys think?

The Actor and the HousewifeThe Actor and the Housewife by Shannon Hale
My rating: 3 of 5 stars

I really have had a hard time knowing what to rate this book.

For the pros:  The dialogue really was very witty and at times I laughed out loud, and it was good enough that I actually finished it in not too long a time, which at this stage in my life is saying something.

However, I think I'll agree with some of the previously written reviews of the book that it was a little bit too much of the authors personal fantasy fleshed out in a book and it got a little ridiculous at points.

I love Shannon Hale and I salute her for doing something different, but it really didn't work completely although I enjoyed the ride for the most part.


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Friday, November 5, 2010

Catch 22

The following questions are from the Random House website

STARTING POINTS FOR YOUR DISCUSSION
  1. Throughout the novel, scenes of unalleviated horror are interwoven with farcically comic scenes. How effective is this juxtaposition?
  2. In what ways is Yossarian a typical literary hero? Would you class him as the novel's hero or its anti-hero?
  3. Although Catch-22 is set in the Second World War, it was published at a time when America was going through great changes. To what extent do you think the novel provides a social commentary of the time in which it was written as well as of the era in which it was set? Are its issues still pertinent in today's society?
  4. How do notions of power and bureaucracy function in Catch-22?
  5. How do you react to the female characters? What role do they play in the narrative?
  6. Catch-22 has a vast roll-call of hilarious characters. In what ways does Heller use them to develop his themes?

Thursday, October 7, 2010

The Poisonwood Bible

I have heard great things about this book and it has been on my to-read list for a long time. I checked it out from the library to read for last month's book club book. I got about 60 pages in and I still wasn't getting interested in the book and, before I knew it, three weeks was up and it was time to return the book to the library. Has anyone else read this? Is it worth trying again and reading the whole thing, or should I move on to the next book? I hate leaving a book unfinished, but I just don't have as much time to read as I would like.

In another vein, I finally read The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society and I loved it. I wish I had read it when the discussion was happening on this blog!

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Same Kind of Different as Me

Here are some questions to get the discussion started on Same Kind of Different as Me.


Consider these LitLovers talking points to help get a discussion started:

1. At the beginning of the book, what kind of person is Ron Hall? How would you describe him (how does he describe himself)? Why does he agree to volunteer at the homeless shelter, and what is his initial reaction in doing so?

2. Talk about the trajectory of Denver Moore's life. What events have landed him in the homeless shelter? Discuss the differences between his life and Ron Hall's. What is Denver's world view?

3. Talk about Deborah Hall? What inspires her life? What does she think of Denver Moore?

4. Eventually, Denver and Ron, two men who have lived vastly different lives, become close friends. What do the two see in one another? What draws them together?

5. What are the symbolic implications of the conversation about how white men fish, especially their catch-and-release method? What does that conversation say about each man, and what is the underlying message that Denver is trying to pass onto Ron?

6. What is the meaning of the book's title, "Same Kind of Difference as Me"? What does it refer to?

7. How do both men change by the end of the book? What do they learn from or teach each other?

8. This is a story about how hate and prejudice can be overcome by love and grace. How difficult is that achievement in most of our lives? What can this book teach us?

9. Does this book inspire you? If so, in what ways?

(Questions by LitLovers. Please feel free to use them, online or off, with attribution. Thanks.)

The Happiness Project

As a book club, we rated The Happiness Project:

4 out of 5

Friday, August 13, 2010

Another Secret of Adulthood...

...that I was reminded of this morning:

You can't rush a 2 year old!

What are some of your secrets of adulthood?

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

The Happiness Project

Hi All,

How did you like The Happiness Project?

I gotta say, the author really drove me crazy, but I loved the content, and I loved how methodical she was about dissecting Happiness and what it means and how to get more.  It gave me a lot of food for thought and had some great ideas in there.  I also just got on her blog for the first time and there's some interesting stuff there and it's jam packed with great quotes to get you thinking.

What I have been wanting to ask you, whether you read it or not, is if you were asked to write down your Secrets of Adulthood, and your 12 personal commandments, as Gretchen Rubin did, what would they look like? (Click the links to see Gretchen Rubin's Secrets of Adulthood and 12 personal commandments (this link is actually for the home page of the blog, but her 12 commandments are on the sidebar on the left))

Or if you weren't going to write your own Secrets, and Commandments, which of hers do you like or identify with?  Which have stuck with you after you finished reading the book?

The one that has stuck with me since I read the book back in January is:

What you do EVERY DAY matters more than what you do ONCE IN A WHILE.


I am an all or nothing type of person, and I have been trying to teach myself this same lesson a lot lately in all aspects of my life: housework, work work, reading, teaching Jocelyn, etc.  I recite this Secret of Adulthood subconsciously since reading the book, and I think it has helped.  I also really loved this one:


Outer order contributes to inner calm.


I have probably been driving people crazy lately talking about redecorating my house all the time, but it is what I have been trying to do for myself and my family to create that "outer order".  In my re-decorating, I have gotten rid of mountains of junk (just like Gretchen did with her closet).  I also have been trying to find storage solutions for our teeny tiny house so that I can really have "A place for everything and everything in its' place" even if I don't have a linen closet or a pantry.  I got rid of anything that I didn't LOVE.  I gave away stuff that it almost hurt to get rid of, and painted the walls in bold hues, and guess what?  Now, for the first time in my life, when I walk into my house, my soul breathes a sigh of relief and I feel comfortable.  


It seems silly to go on and on about a house project, but I really feel that the Spirit resides in my home more now that it is a haven and my soft place to land. It is a temporal thing, but I feel like I am a better mother and wife because I'm not stressed out by junk piles everywhere. 


I definitely would include this in my own personal Secret of Adulthood.


I also loved one that a blog reader wrote in that said, "buy whatever you want at the grocery store.  It costs less than eating out."  Isn't that the truth.


What would make your list?

Review

As a book club, we gave Pride and Prejudice and Zombies

1 out of 5

we were not fans!

Monday, August 2, 2010

Book Idea

My Mother-in-Law was telling me about this book called Follow the River and I thought it sounded interesting. It's a true story about a woman who is captured by the indians and the first half is about her ordeal with them, then the second half is about her escape with an old dutch lady who goes mad and tries to kill her to eat her. She said it was really good so I thought I'd try it out